The United States Supreme Court decided that marriage (as an act of the state) was for all people and their partners. The LGBTQ community (Lesbian, Gay, Bi-Sexual, Transgender, Queer/Questioning) and their allies have been pushing for the ability to marry in the eyes of the court for a long while. When it comes to having a family, adopting kids, visiting your loved one in the hospital, or even being able to make end of life care decisions, – there are a lot of benefits marriage offers that civil unions or otherwise fail to provide for same-sex couples.
There also are those, particularly in religious communities, that feel that this decision to allow same-sex marriage is a threat to the sanctity of marriage as something that God has given us as a gift. All in all, there is a wide spectrum of opinions of how people feel, think, and see that this change in how the US Supreme Court’s decision will affect them. Feel free to dabble in that as much as you’d like…
However, the Supreme Court is not the church. And while our thoughts as the church on LGBTQ marriage may span the same spectrum of disagreement, our focus is different. We get to look to God and where we see God revealed in Jesus: particularly in scripture, tradition, and the sacraments. I think this is especially true as “Gay Marriage” comes to the forefront of the American conversation.
We get to wonder where we see God in “Gay marriage.” We also get to wonder where the other person sees God in it. And you might believe something towards marriage equality, and you may even feel it strongly. Where does the other person see God in this conversation? Because at the end of the day, as the church, we don’t have to believe in everything the person sitting next to us believes.
To put it another way, if you are married, do you agree with everything your spouse says or does? – And yet, God called you together in the bond of marriage, and that bond becomes the center of relationship rather than being “right.” So you might, for the sake of relationship and that bond, choose to hear each other out so you can at least understand from where the other is coming. Perhaps this will bring some insight.
I think the same is true of the church. Agreement on everything is secondary to being called together by God in Baptism. Can we take the time to learn where others in the community see God in this, even if we don’t agree with them?